The Secret of Emotions! You might be thinking where is the secret in it? We all know about emotions and we know how to suffer or enjoy them. Yes, I agree that we all know about emotions, but there is something specific about emotions which if you understand and implement, your life will be more joyful and stress-free. So, what is this secret of emotions?
Now, first, let’s understand what I mean by emotions. For me, “Emotions are strong feelings deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.” If you read this definition you will observe that emotions are always dependent on the outside world. Any feeling which you have without any outer stimuli is not in my purview of the emotions I am discussing today. Emotions which do not require outer stimulation are pure feelings. These are feelings of joy, equanimity, bliss, ecstasy etc. which can be felt without any outer cause.
Some people are depressed or sad, but they do not know the cause of their sadness and hence cannot be considered as experiencing a pure feeling. People might have forgotten the reason for their sadness, but they are carrying this sadness due to some event that has happened in the outer world. If some people feel happy or joyful because today is their birthday or they got promoted or some other success, then too they are not experiencing a pure feeling as the stimulus is outside.
Let’s see what your emotion does to you. Do you remember your first love? Your first kiss? How elevating it was? The degree of the emotions generated the first time is never achieved the next time. Due to this first emotion, you keep loving the same person or someone else but the intensity of the first emotion is never experienced and surprisingly the intensity constantly drops to a new low each time.
This feeling of never reaching the intensity of your ‘first-time emotion’ is the same for your fun parties, smoking, drinking, movies, making money, shopping etc. By getting trapped into this chase of experiencing the same intensity of emotions every time, secretly our emotions engage us in this chase of a mirage.
Now let’s take another scenario. Some people say they get the motivation to work or to act when they are running high on some emotion like anger, hate, fear etc. You might have heard many success stories started with a thought of revenge or to prove oneself. These people might be driven by anger or hate. Or you might have heard or seen people who start working just close to the deadlines or when something is going to fail and when they will face a grave consequence.
Whether you are chasing an emotion or acting with emotion, in both cases, in the end, you will feel a void inside you and your body might also have to pay the price for it. Why does this happen? It is because in the first case when you are chasing an intensity of emotion which you will never be able to get again, you overindulge in the act. Example smokers will smoke more, drinkers will drink more, lovers will have more sex etc. Generally, this creates withdrawal from other social and personal (internal/ external) activities as one is focusing on and giving energy and time to a particular act more than others. If a person is not made aware of his state, he might form a habit which might take him till the tipping point and throw him off-balance. This type of person is already feeling an absence (void) of emotion and feeling a constant failure to achieve it. Just a few other failures/challenges in the life of such a person might throw him into a mental and emotional off-balance.
In the other cases where people ride a wave of emotions and achieve success through it are constantly putting pressure on their mind, brain and the rest of the nervous system. These negative emotions of anger, hate, fear etc. not only keep them stressed but they stay in the same emotion majority of their time and create the habit of behaving out of these emotions. This habit might take them to the tipping point and throw them off-balance. This type of person always displaying the same emotions creates a negative environment in which positive feelings cannot stay long. They create a snow-ball effect of the emotions and after a while, they cannot control it. These emotions not only destroy their social relationships but also destroy their body and mind as constant negative emotions create stress and stress-related diseases.
These emotions are actually making you their slave. At first, it feels that these emotions are giving you success and pleasure but later these take away your mental peace and health. These emotions also cloud your mind, and you make the wrong decisions in your life. You find it difficult to enjoy life. For this reason, I say, “leave this baggage of emotions right away”.
How to leave these emotions?
- Get proper knowledge: First, learn from an able teacher why we get emotions and the reasons why we get trapped in them.
- State of high frequency: Through pure emotions, get into high frequency. There are many breathing and sound therapy techniques that help take you to a state of high frequency.
- Practice art of observation: Through meditation techniques build your mental muscle of observation. Observation is seeing things as they are, without looking through the tinted glass of your emotions.
Till you read my next blog, till then Work on Your Emotions, Stay Healthy, and Stress-free!!
