Have you ever been in a situation where your heart and brain work in the opposite direction? When your heart says, ‘come on, chase your dreams’, but your brain pulls you in the opposite path stating, ‘it is impossible to achieve’.

In the beginning, your adrenaline rushes and you are ready to face all the challenges, but slowly when you start making the necessary move, the sense of fear moves stealthily in your mind. Suddenly you are overpowered by your negative thoughts and self-doubts.

Where do these fears come from? Why can’t we overcome them? Is it our self-ignorance, lack of confidence or scarcity of resources?

No, it is not that simple. This behaviour is called self-sabotaging and it is the result of several factors and events in our life that compels us to believe we are not born to or we are not made to achieve, what we are striving for.

And guess what?

We succumb to this and give up our actual dreams to lead a life that everybody wants us to lead. The bad news is we all become a victim of self-harm at least once in our lifetime, especially when we do not have anyone to coach us.

So, let us look at a few ways in which we unknowingly impair our own success.

1. The Dearth Of Support From Family

People we are surrounded with have a very strong impact on our mind and they are our actual holistic life coach. Whether it is family, friends or even the neighbours, their confidence in us gives us the strength to achieve our goal.

On the other hand, in the absence of their assurance, we start doubting our aim, wondering whether we are moving towards the correct direction. Here you have two choices; either be focused yourself, or search for a confidence coach, who will instil trust in you to have full faith in your dreams, even if others do not approve of it.

2. Lack Of Confidence In Our Dreams

If taken a closer look,  this is a major reason which hampers our thoughts. Forget about others, at the end of the day only we can bring a change in our life. By realising what our full potential is and then matching it with what we need to achieve our dreams, is a good way to start working towards them.  

Focus on the possibilities and have faith in yourself that you have got what it needs. Even if you fall short, your learning and experience will prepare you to do better next time!

3. Doubt–The Biggest Killer Of Success

With little or absolutely no support from family and having a lack of confidence can compel you to doubt your dreams. Once self-doubt enters your life, then there is no way one can get out of this vicious cycle. As one qualm raises several questions about our capabilities, we surrender ourselves to these apprehensions without even trying to move towards the goal.

4. Ignorance Of Strength And Capabilities

Remember it is your own life. You are in-charge of this. Nobody else has the right to judge you on your capabilities. It is up to every individual to identify their strengths, weaknesses, and potential. We often fail to recognize our potency and start following somebody else’s dream.

5. Finding Faults With Others

Yes, the blame game is possibly a crucial factor that hinders our success path. In the process, we tend to blame somebody else for our own shortcomings or mistakes. Unable to take responsibility for our blunders, we keep repeating our errors without learning from the past.

At this time, it is better to have someone who has an outside perspective, can see clearly and help you realise the same. With the right guidance, one starts accepting reality, identifies one’s weakness, and acts accordingly in a disciplined manner.

6. More Wishes, Less Hard Work And Commitment

‘I wish I were a well-known athlete with a huge fan following, but I’m sorry I cannot put in too much physical labour.’

This contradictory situation will always disrupt your success dream. Wishes without hard work, commitments, and proper planning will never let you achieve your goals, even if you have all the support and resources available. As they say, A Goal without a Plan is just a Wish.

7. Lack Of Appreciation

In our daily stressful life, we forget to be thankful for whatever strength and qualities we have and work towards the betterment of the same. We keep comparing ourselves with others and focus on what we do not have. In this situation, one must remember that every individual is different; therefore, instead of falling prey to this constant feeling of incompleteness focusing on aspects that make us stronger will certainly result in success. The appreciation will also force you to take care of yourself and constantly improve your skills.

Though the above said reasons are the main culprits which often stop us from chasing our dreams, there are other factors too contributing to the sabotage of our success which cannot be ignored. For example, stress, anger and anxiety caused due to the constant urge to win the rat race, which not only affects the performance but also depletes the energy levels.

This depleted energy level needs to be replenished every day using energy healing techniques like meditation or sound therapy.

Whether it is physical or mental health, in today’s competitive world both are equally important to achieve success because a healthy mind resides in a healthy body. And a healthy mind supports a healthy body.

Our diet, our surroundings, events, people – everything adds to our emotions. Once we start understanding each emotion separately and delinking it from the other, we can start removing these blockages and limitations from our minds.

 If you want to understand how and where to start, let’s have a conversation.

Till I see you with my next thoughts – Enjoy Life, Stay Healthy and Stress-Free!